Below is the site (from the NY Times) to a most touching love story of a woman who is dying of ovarian cancer and writes a story about how wonderful her husband is. She talks about how her plans to grow old with her husband were thwarted by cancer and she had to pivot her thinking to Plan “Be”.
This story replaces my planned “health and wellness topics” for Sixty and Beyond because we never know when we have to go to Plan “Be”. Think of your own Plan “Be” and give a special hug to those you care about.
1. Overconfidence in how your life will turn out will never match your expectations or be the road map you developed for yourself (for better or worse).
2. Your health (and those you love) is vulnerable, even though you feel healthy.
3. Always have a back up plan because plans change, life changes, the unexpected happens… “Stay ready so you don’t have to get ready” attributed to Connor McGregor, Will Smith and others.
4. You are never too old to change careers, or change anything you do.
5. Do what you are afraid to do – stretch yourself.
6. Educate yourself – no one can take what you learned away from you.
7. Moderation is key (so hard sometimes).
8. Stay engaged with others – socialization has been shown to improve longevity.
9. Don’t wait to do things you plan for “some day”.. that day may not come or you might hit a roadblock.. Today is some day.
10. At the end of the day… it will be the end of the day.
Great tips from Berkeley Wellness: (you will have to search for the article oral health – below is a brief synopsis.
Of all the things we know we should do, one of the more under rated and overlooked about is Oral Health our “Window to Overall Health”.
– Peridontal (gum) disease is a harbinger and/or may play a role in other health issues (heart disease, diabetes, etc). The bacteria in our mouth can also rise with medications (decongestants, antihistamines, painkillers, diuretics and antidepressants) that reduce saliva flow. Saliva is important in protecting from bacteria buildup.
For more information on Oral Health – click here:
Protect your Oral Health:
- Brush your teeth twice a day with fluoride toothpaste
- Floss daily
- Replace your toothbrush at least every 3 months (yuck… bacteria builds on that toothbrush)
- See your dentist
- Easy on the sugar
- Check with your physician or dentist if you are on medications that can reduce saliva
Wednesday – Mid-week Humor
Last weekend I spent three days (we had Monday off for President’s Day – no comment there) organizing and boxing up hundreds of ceramic cats that my mother-in-law had collected until her death about 1 month ago. The lesson for me is that I don’t want to leave anyone with the task of trying to find homes for these type of cherished items. Wouldn’t it be better to give them away, donate them and not leave them to someone else to “care for”. If I had liked ceramic cats, they would be in my home – nothing against the cute collectables (this picture only shows a fraction of the collection), but I don’t need or want them taking up space in my home.
Embrace the teachings of Marie Kondo (The Life-changing Magic of Tidying Up and Spark Joy) and if it does NOT spark joy – let it journey elsewhere. Hopefully I will find new homes where these cats will spark joy for someone else.
Morale of the Story: Don’t keep “stuff” that others will have to deal with, it does NOT spark joy for them.
Upon reflection on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs https://www.learning-theories.com/maslows-hierarchy-of-needs.html I feel that successful aging can be broken down into 3 sections: Health, Happiness, & Engagement.
Without your health, it’s hard to obtain happiness and be really engaged. However, one could argue that you could flip the pyramid around and if you are engaged, you are likely to be happy and if happy, more likely healthy. You choose the direction of the pyramid you prefer.
In the book, I Don’t Have Time: 15-minute Ways to Shape a Life You Love, by authors Audrey Thomas and Emma Grey, 2017 – they state: if something isn’t scheduled, it won’t get done – how true! The challenge is to take 15-minutes to book your health appointments (over the next year) and notice the shift of empowerment over your health. Certainly, you can find 15 minutes in the day? The Goal: Stay Healthy to be Happy to allow you to be Engaged. Now make those phone calls. More about other health tips next time. Until then brush your teeth, drink plenty of water and move…